hi sweet angel,
how are you holding up? (i genuinely want to know so lmk in the chat *the chat is for paying subscribers only*).
after 40+ days of feeling completely despondent, something has switched in me recently. i have hope. i know that the world around us is still in disarray and bloodshed across different continents is still a reality, but it finally feels like folks are waking up.
i feel it in my bones. the tide is turning.
with that said, lets segway into today’s newsletter—taking accountability for the fact that maybe you have been the problem.
now, before i continue, i want to highlight that there are many instances where we are victims to circumstances and don’t have a way out. i 100000% empathize if that is your current scenario or one you’ve been victim to in the past. this newsletter isn’t for those of you who are victims, but instead for those who convince themselves they are the victims when they actually have options available.
i’m going to kick this off by acknowledging that i have been both the victim of circumstances i couldn’t control, and also the person who chose to remain caught up in a life that wasn’t best for me. i know the difference between the two.
without getting into too much detail (i’ll save that for the memoir i’ll eventually write) the cycles that kept me down the most always had to do with relationships (romantic & platonic). i sought out the validation and love from others to the point where i sacrificed myself—my light. my ideas. my energy. my advice. my care. my heart.